To be honest the vast majority of people allow their attitude and mindset to be controlled by the environment and circumstances around them. It’s incredibly easy to come to believe that how we feel and what we think are driven by external forces rather than something we choose. The hard truth is that attitude and mindset are something that we choose and therefore are something within our control.
Well, hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you once again, welcome to The Daily Podcast. Second episode back since last week’s hospital visit. Of course, many of you would know I managed to almost kill myself and ended up in hospital for quite a while and back in hospital today to do some more checkups but just good to be above ground everybody.
I think you heard the previous episode was all about gratitude. I learned a lot about gratitude over the last couple of weeks and I want to encourage us all just to, in the midst of the many challenges of every single day, to constantly remind ourselves of all the good things that are in our lives. They’re not very hard to find. Sometimes we can think that everything’s terrible but you know there’s just the smallest things.
Over the weekend, my young daughter who’s only eight basically just wouldn’t leave me. She made sandwiches. She just got my tablets. She just did everything. She would not leave my side and I was just blown away by her care for me in the midst of this pretty challenging season. I think that was just another reminder for me that yes, I wish things were a little bit different right now, but there’s still so much to be grateful for, right in the midst of challenging circumstances.
Now, I mentioned that having had that experience and having been in the hospital, I wanted to kind of riff for a couple of episodes on some of the key things. If you were following me on Instagram over the weekend, you would have seen me do a couple of posts around attitude and mindset. And what I shared in those posts is really confirmed by the experience in hospital which is that we can’t let our environment dictate our response. We can’t let our environment and the circumstances of our life dictate our response to reality.
I think what happens for so many people is when things are difficult, when things are not to our liking, we immediately allow the circumstance, the environment, the situation to dictate how we conduct ourselves. So for me, when I was all the way from being in the ambulance right through to being in the hospital, I tried to make a very consistent effort to express gratitude to a lot of people and to encourage people. To thank people for what they were doing, to tell them they were doing a good job. Karen got embarrassed because I was doing it so often. She thought it was all the drugs they were giving me, but I kept trying to say, “Hey, thank you so much, really appreciate you. Thank you for what you’re doing.”
I don’t say that in any way to make myself sound good. I don’t know where it comes from. I think it’s just a belief right in my DNA that people need encouragement and people need to be thanked and people need to have gratitude expressed to them. It’s a very deep human need. So what I found was, yes, I was in pain. Yes, people were sticking needles in me all the time. Yes, I didn’t like it being in a hospital. Yes, I didn’t like pretty much every single part of it, but I had to make a decision to express thanks and gratitude to people, and for me that meant people would come to visit me and I’d be pretty out of it, but I would remember later in the day just to tap out a one finger text message saying, “Thank you so much for what you’ve done and for being here.” I just kept on top of that.
I think what I learned was that in the midst of a very difficult season, I was able to not let that season really get on top of me too much, and look, I’m trying to explain really what that is. I think it’s just a decision. I think really mindset and attitude have to come down to a point of decision. My observation of people over many years is that so many of us get embedded in our story and we justify our behavior and choices through our story, so we’re like, “Well, this happened to me,” or, “This person did this, therefore I get to act this way or feel this way.” I just think if you want to have a richer, more fuller, more beautiful life, then the faster you can disentangle your responses from your environment, the better.
I don’t negate or play down how difficult and challenging life can be for some of us at key times, but we are always in control of how we respond. If that’s not true, then we’re truly determined by our environment which means that there’s no human free will, right because we’re just utterly controlled by what happens around us.
All I want to say to you today is whatever’s happening for you, I really want to encourage you to think about attitude and mindset as a decision point rather than something conditioned by external forces, okay? So wherever you’re hearing this in the world, there’s going to be areas of your life that are challenging right now: relationships, work, finance, who knows? But the question you have to resolve is whether you let the circumstance dictate the response.
I do know what people say people will go. Well this is just magical thinking. What if things are really terrible? Will, I go, Well, they are. I mean it’s subjective, right? We can all objectively have bad things happen to you. My body got banged up really badly. There are huge scars on my head because I got almost run over by an earth moving tractor, so that’s an objective fact. So we’re not going to say, “Well, it didn’t happen,” because it did. You might’ve had a relationship end or you might have a health problem or a finance or a career problem or a parenting problem, but that’s objective. I’m not denying it is there once we acknowledge it. The question is just how we respond. So, I’m trying to respond with encouragement and gratitude to this current little blip in my life and I want to encourage you to do the same. All right?
Gratitude, thank people, remain positive despite what’s happening, okay? Not easy, but it is a decision. It is not random magical fairy dust that you are just going to just somehow find a way to do this. It is a tough, gritty, moment by moment choice to live fully.
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