Bet On You — Get In Your Own Corner and Stop Looking Backwards

Well, hello there, my friend.

Jonathan Doyle with you once again.

Listen, can I say this to you?

I want you to do something.

From this day forward, I want you to start betting on you.

I want you to start betting on you.

I want you to get in your own corner, get on your own team,

and start to genuinely believe in your own goodness and potential.

Are you perfect?

No.

Are you a complete saint?

Not yet, but you are on the way.

If you're listening to this kind of content, you're obviously in the game.

But I would like to suggest to you that so many people spend their lives so utterly

focused upon their suffering, the problems they've had, what they didn't get, and

I just want to encourage you to not live any more of your life looking backwards.

We've been given this beautiful gift of memory, and it's kind of… It's

very beautiful to be able to look back at the challenges, the ups,

the downs, as, as you get older, the highs and lows, this incredible

rich tapestry that is your life.

But so many people look backwards with shame, with guilt, with regret.

Am I saying that we should just be like, you know, completely forgetting

every bad thing we've ever done?

No, we learn from our mistakes, and we grow all the time, but

we've got to learn to bet on ourselves, to get on our own team.

This life you have been given is remarkably short.

I know it feels long, but when you compare it to this vast cosmos

we're in, it's a blink of an eye.

And I've been so struck by this as I get older, I'm like thinking, I'm not

worried about dying and I'm… but I'm just like, "Wow, there is just like so

much to do and so much to contribute, and I wanna serve so many people,

and, and I just wanna keep growing." And I have to learn to bet on myself.

I have to learn to push myself forward.

And I don't do it from arrogance.

I do it because the more that we get on our own team, the more we can

genuinely be alive for other people.

You come alive when you actually believe, in some sense, in your own goodness

and your own capacity to, to be okay.

Like, I don't know what your experience has been, depending on how you were

raised and the experiences you've had, but I've-- my, my experience and encounter

with so many people is that it's not about they lack self-confidence, it's

they've never really conceptualized the idea that they could be remarkable.

That there's this vast cosmos, and there's only one of them that has ever existed.

My friend, if you're listening to me, there has only ever been one of you.

There will only ever be one of you.

Like, God wanted you to exist.

You are handcrafted.

Bet on you These unique gifts and a ta- uh, like talents and abilities

that you've been given have been given to no one else, not in the specific

way that they've been given to you.

And so many of us have heard the old, you know, you're playing

small, doesn't serve anyone.

So there's a spectrum here, right?

Like we, on that extreme end is like narcissism, and I don't think

that's gonna be your problem.

I don't think you're really gonna… If, if you listen to this, you wanna grow.

You don't listen to this so you can figure out, "Well, I hope Jonathan's gonna

tell me some way that I can manipulate people and make their lives worse."

That's not why you're listening.

But I wanna encourage you to get on your own team, to believe in your own goodness.

And so many times, uh, in the podcast I've talked about, you

know, not waiting for a rescue.

Not waiting for a rescue.

I know I've got many listeners with a faith perspective, and yeah, with His

grace and, and God in, you know, aids us as we try to grow and serve people.

But don't wait for a rescue.

Don't wait for a magical day when you'll find the perfect therapist

or somebody will, you know, say the perfect combination of words,

and then you'll be like, "Oh, wow.

Now I'm healed.

Now I'm whole.

Now I can start living." What if that day never comes?

What if that perfect combination of words never happens for you?

What if you just bet on you?

What if you just start?

What if you went, "Hey, look, can I just say it to you? You're a good person." Like

you're, and I know when I say that, you're thinking, "You don't know me, Jonathan.

You, you're never gonna meet me." No, if you're listening to this, you are, because

the only people that listen to this kinda content are people that want to improve.

And if there's anything in you that wants to improve, that's good.

That's goodness.

You want more from this one beautiful life.

You wanna experience more, contribute more.

So you're okay.

You're okay But I want you to bet on you.

In the last few weeks, I've been working with a lot of people in

k- in a coaching capacity and just encountering people, and it just

strikes me, so many people are lost.

So many people are just deeply confused and uncertain about their own wonderful

capacity and all that they could do and experience, and I don't want that for you.

I, I guess what I'm saying is I've been struck by this deep belief

that you're here for a unique purpose, and I really mean it.

I just finished reading Robert Greene's book, Mastery, and that,

and that book really spoke to me.

It was a hard read, but it spoke to me because it's this idea that, that people

that we think are, like, world-changing geniuses are usually people that just have

this profound passion and engagement with something, and we mistake it for talent.

We go, "Oh, the pixie fairy dust, the unicorns came in the night and

sprinkled talent dust on them."

No, all they had was some luck, where they were born, particular family, some

experiences, and an, and an aptitude for something, an interest in something.

And that interest became important, and then they just poured time and energy

into it, but they bet on themselves.

In that book, Mastery, you know, they talk a fair bit about, uh, Mozart.

And, you know, Mozart bet on Mozart.

There's a profound moment in Mozart's life where his father had been, like,

profoundly, uh, controlling, I guess, you know, over his life and the life of his

sister, and he, his father had kind of paraded him and his sister around European

court capitals kind of like little toy children and, 'cause they were so

prodigious and brilliant at a young age.

But eventually, as they aged, the kind of, that kind of shtick wore off.

But Mozart's incredible passion for music continued, and he had this kind

of big falling out with his father where he finally said, "You know,

look, I'm, I'm, I'm gonna go." And, and he left and fought and went off

on his own because of his deep passion and aptitude and love for music.

But can I say that ultimately, what did, what did he do?

He bet on himself.

He bet on himself.

Einstein's another great example, right?

Like, he was not a great student.

He was not a great student, but he was taken with some very specific

questions in physics and quantum physics.

Do you know he spent 10 years working at a patent office?

It was, like, a pretty low-grade job, and his friends that he'd studied with all

went off to do these amazing things, and he's at this patent office for 10 years.

But do you know what he did most of that time?

He just spent a lot of time thinking about the problems that

he was working on, just thinking.

He was betting on himself the whole time.

Everyone's like, "Why don't you start this?

Why don't you become a professor?

Why don't you go and do this?" And he's like, "Yeah, no, I'm good.

I'm good.

I'm working on something.

I'm working on the most profound theory of the universe since Isaac Newton.

We're gonna just replace Newtonian physics." So he bet on himself.

What i- what's your special gift?

What is that thing that you've always been good at?

What's that thing that since you were little people said,

"Well, hey, you're good at that"?

Are you funny?

Are you a great communicator?

Are you a great student?

Well, what is it that you've been given?

Do you even know that?

Like, do you, do you even know what your X factor is?

Or do you think that of all the people on the planet, God was like, "Well, I

gotta make eight billion in this batch, but, um, the, you know, this person

here," whoever's listening to Jonathan, "yeah, you don't, you don't get anything.

You know, you just gotta work- You just go, you just, you

just gotta breathe," right?

You got no… Seriously, do you really think that God would go to

all that trouble and not give you some unique special capacities?

So why not bet on them?

Look at what I do, right?

Like, I get to spend my time doing what I love to do, because whether

it's on stage or in the studio, I get to just, just do this.

Like, you can sense it in me, right?

I just wanna help people.

I want people to grow.

So I'm betting on myself to do that.

I don't even think about, you know, competition or am I

betting anybody else or worse.

I don't even think about it.

I'm just thinking, "I'm just gonna keep doing this while people are listening.

I'm just gonna keep going, and if people stop listening, I'll

just do it to the bus driver.

I'll do it to my kids.

I'll talk to the dog." Whatever it is, I'm gonna bet on myself.

I'm gonna be the best personal development specialist for canines, whatever.

But if you can't bet on yourself, who's gonna bet on you?

Do you think there's gonna be this one day where all of a sudden somebody turns

up and goes, "I just wanna-- I've, I'm here to rescue you and to fix all your

problems and to, and to help you live your unique special abilities and capacities"?

That day is not coming.

So come to your own rescue.

Bet on yourself.

Bet on yourself.

I don't know how else to say it.

I wish there was some profound insight I could give you other than you've

been given unique gifts, talents, and abilities, and you need to trust that

they were given to you for a reason, and there's something so beautiful in that.

Something so beautiful, and just that God can basically roll out a batch of

eight billion people at a time, give or take, and I'm just so convinced

that every single unique one of them…

There's a guy on Instagram at the moment who's in a wheelchair, and he's obviously

got some profound, uh, handicaps, like just, you know, life in a wheelchair

from birth and, and struggles to speak.

But he just, he just every day shares his faith and his joy and talks about

his suffering, and I'm like, "This guy is, like, living this life that the

rest of us would obviously not want," but he's like, he's betting on himself.

He's still bringing something beautiful into the world through this

unique gift that he's been given.

This unique gift to take his setbacks and challenges and sufferings and, and

this disability and just, just still speak and still reach out to people.

So if he can bet on himself, what is your excuse?

Bet on you.

Okay?

Can you do that?

Can you start to think about it, to betting on yourself?

Because no one else is gonna do it for you.

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