As many of you know I was involved in a bad accident last week. Before and after the surgery I had some pretty intense moments where I began to reflect upon how incredibly easy it can be to believe you will be happy when you reach some distant point in the future. Meanwhile, we lose site of the incredible blessings around us every day. In this episode I want to share how the events of last week have taught me to start taking gratitude far more seriously.
Well, hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you once again. Welcome to The Daily Podcast. This is a very special episode. Some of you know why. If you don’t know why, it’s because a week ago I had a rather major accident, and just got out of hospital yesterday. One of the funny things is being in hospital I was in pretty bad way, was the number of people that said, either visiting in hospital or on social media, said wow. I said, they said there’ll be a few good podcast episodes out of this, so I hope there will be, and over the next sort of few days I’d like to unpack a few things that I really want to share with you.
So very quickly, I don’t want to go on about it, but basically what happened was we’d been overseas for a long time. We were home, and we were doing some work on the house. I was doing some work on the house with Karen’s dad, and we have a very steep block. We live in a beautiful house, there’s a very steep driveway, and I was driving a earth moving machine, like a small kind of tractor thing, and the gradient of the driveway was so steep that it flipped on the way down. I managed to jump off just before it kind of pinned me, and I came down from a pretty major height and landed, shattered both my wrists, and sort of split my head really badly, and a few other injuries as well. I was in hospital for a few days, had surgery, had the wrists re-built with titanium plates and if you’ve seen the photos, it was pretty intense there for a few days.
It’s just really glad to be home. There’s so many good people that work in the hospital systems, but if you’ve been there, you know that there’s nothing quite as wonderful as getting out. So, incredibly excited to be home. Now, listen quickly. I want to thank everybody. Seriously, the level of support has been extraordinary, from both people here where we live and family. It’s just been incredible.
Often it’s unfortunately these moments of crisis that make you realize just how wonderful people really can be, so I was aware of that level of connection and service from so many people, but really I wanted to thank also so many people on social media, Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. For me, the support from around the world has been incredible. It’s just blown my mind. So many people criticize social media and I understand why, but the love, and support, and encouragement, and kindness that I’ve received from so many of you hasn’t been incredible, so please understand that if you sent me a message, I hope I replied. If I didn’t, it was because I was way off my tree on drugs at the time. But even this morning a wonderful guy that I really like who’s a bishop in the remote southern highlands of New Guinea sent me a message. So Bishop Donald, if you listen to this, thank you for your message today. That was beautiful. So friends, I just want to say thank you to everybody.
From here, I’m going to be probably about at least a six month recovery, just rebuilding the body, but first out of hospital want to do a podcast, because I just want to get back on the horse, slowly, so you don’t have to message me and say I’ve got a rest, because I am doing that, too. Karen keeps a very close eye on me so I’ll be recovering well.
But listen, here’s what I want to talk about in this short message is very simply I want to talk to you about gratitude. I think it can be a platitude that rhymed, and I did that on purpose, in case you wondering. Gratitude is one of those things that we hear a lot about. It’s one of those can be kind of one of those warm, fuzzy sort of personal development ideas that we should live in gratitude and be grateful. I just want to share with you that it is only having come through this last week that I think I’ve got a real insight into what that means. When you’re in a lot of pain, and when your freedom’s gone, and when you’re suffering, and things are terrible, and some of you have been there, you begin to realize that we live most of our lives really disconnected from just how awesome things really are.
We talk about First World problems. We talk about those little things, you know, late in traffic, or your soy latte wasn’t hot enough, and we joke about these things, but I think there’s something really important here. It was only through this experience that I’ve began to realize how incredibly blessed I am and how easy it is for us all to take the incredible things around us for granted. I think what happens is we assume that we’re not allowed to be happy until we have achieved everything that we want to achieve. So we’re not allowed to be happy until absolutely everything that we want has come about. I used to, for years, I was like, well, I’ll be happy when this happens, when you have these level of investments, or this level of success, or this relationship, and I’ve spoken about that before, and what that does is that we live often off in the future and we are disconnected from the good things that are happening all around us.
In the hospital, Karen would come in and we would get to go for these walks. I couldn’t leave the ward, so I would just walk laps of this ward. The other night we had like two and a half hours together just walking around, just being together and talking, and the gratitude that I felt just to be walking. Not to be like a quadriplegic or something, to be walking and just to be with her. I suddenly began to realize the richness of all these small experiences that surround our lives every day.
So all I want to say to you is, having come through this last week, is I really want to encourage you to look into your life right now and start to really get good at gratitude for what’s already there. Yes, I’m sure that you wouldn’t change a bunch of things and you might want to be taller, shorter, richer, more famous. Who knows? We’re all different. We all want different things. I get that. But I got home last night, and I got to read to my kids, and I got to sing them a song as they fell asleep, and I got to hold them and hug them, and I got to have dinner with my family, and I suddenly just went, wow. This is the great stuff, this stuff.
So, I want to encourage you, my friend, as you hear this, to look into your life today and don’t mortgage your future away, don’t mortgage your life into some distant future where one day you might be happy. What’s good now? Are you walking? Do you have clean water? Do you have at least one person that loves you? Do you have a good friend? Do you have a book that you like? Do you have kids that love you? Honestly, just don’t wait to suffer a lot of pain or setback until you realize just how good things actually might be.
That’s the first big learning from me. I want to share some other things with you over the next few days. But gratitude. Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude. Things may not be perfect for me, for you, for all of us, but they’re probably not as bad as we think. So maybe get your journal out today and make a list, or maybe just be mindful and present to something that’s good in your life right now. Karen just took me out to a doctor’s visit and we had a coffee together, and I just sat there just staring at her, and the sun was out and it’s warm. I could feel the wind on my skin. I’ve been stuck in a hospital cubicle for days, and these little things, but we miss them if we’re not switched on and present to them.
All right, friends, listen, God bless you. Stay tuned the next few days. Thank you again for your support. Please keep in touch. Instagram, jonathandoyle47, Facebook, The Daily Podcast with Jonathan Doyle. Everything else is on the website. JonathanDoyle.co. Please make sure you’ve subscribe and if you’ve got a friend that needs to hear something about gratitude, I’d love you to send them this message. But, if you have any questions about the last week, things that I might’ve learned or questions you have that could be good content for a podcast, then just send me a DM somewhere, and I’ll do some content on that. But God bless you. I hope that you will move more deeply in gratitude, and that you will come to understand that the best is ahead, but there’s also a lot of good stuff happening right now. My name is Jonathan Doyle.
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