Ever wondered why some people seem to operate at a higher level? What is the X-Factor that seems to take some people moving in the direction of breakthrough while others stagnate? In this podcast I explore the power of living, training and working at your threshold capacity. The power of the threshold is found when you think you can’t go on but manage to find a deeper perseverance than you thought possible.
The ability to start pushing your limits requires a few key things. First, is the desire and the commitment to start seeking out the situations and the people who already seek out their own thresholds. It’s always much easier to push yourself and test yourself when you’re surrounded by other people who are trying to do the same thing. There just seems to be a basic human phenomenon that when we get around people who are really stretching in their lives then pushing your limits becomes so much easier.
The threshold is that place where you are hurting but you find a way to keep going. It’s a place where you are tested at the edge of your capacity. it can be physical but it could also be professional, relational, spiritual or intellectual. It’s all about finding out who you are by deliberately structuring your environment to demand you perform. To be blunt, most people just never do this. It’s too hard. It’s also relative. What is the threshold for one person will be different for another. What matters is making sure that you are pushing your limits in a consistent and deliberate manner.
Everyone wants to know at some point in life how to overcome obstacles. The key is all in the power of our ability as human beings to reframe what is happening to us. William James made that point at the start of the 20th century. His insight was that the ability to direct what we think about would be one of the great advances for the human race in then coming century. As the father of modern psychology James understood that we possess an incredible power within our psychological capacity to reframe what is happening in our lives. When it comes to wanting to better understand how to overcome obstacles we need to understand that in life we have the power to apply meaning to whatever happens to us. As such, the obstacles we face can be a cause for despair or we can being with a new realisation that every obstacle, every challenge carries within it an invitation to grow and to change.
As such, what can happen in life is that we uncover the incredible realisation that every thing we once thought of as blocking us from our goals many, in fact, be making us stronger. This does not mean that we have to like some of the obstacles and challenges that we face but it does mean we call allow them to transform us.
Overcoming obstacles is a crucial aspect of building a life of success and contribution. So many times people see the obstacles in their life as a source of despair. Instead, it’s time to realise that every obstacle presents you with a question and an invitation to grow. Overcoming obstacles is all about the power to reframe. What we perceive as a problem is actually an opportunity to grow and change. Every obstacle we face carries with it an embedded question.The trick is to get the clarity to ask what each challenge is offering us. Most of the time we are being invited to stretch and grow. As such overcoming obstacles eventually teaches us the secret lesson that obstacles, rather than being a source of pain and frustration are actually our friend and teacher.
If you find that you feel a growing sense of frustration and despair every time life presents you with another difficulty then this podcast will help you create the shift you have been looking for.
Reference groups are an incredibly powerful predictor of success over the long haul. Reference groups consists of the four or five people (not including family) that you spend the most time with. Reference groups can quickly become the benchmark by which we set our standards. That can be a good thing depending upon who makes up your reference groups.
In life it can be hard to look at some of the people we have been spending our time with and make a decision to move on and find different reference groups. In this podcast I take some time to explore the full range of issues related to understanding the power of this important topic in your life and what you can do to make sure that this crucial power is in your hands.
I begin the podcast by exploring the basic outline of how the principle operates and then we take some time to look at the two key decisions you are going to need to make. First, how do you identify a new group of people that you want to associate with more often? Second, what do you about some of the people you would prefer to spending less time with?
Perhaps the hardest thing that has to happen is the level of the shift in your personal psychology. You can’t effectively function in a new group until you have created the type of personal psychology that allows you to believe that you actually belong there.
Also, it’s not just about you. As you begin to reflect on this principle and put it into practice you discover that you begin to give other people around you a new freedom to become more reflective in their own lives.