In today’s episode I share a great insight about the power of our thoughts and language and how we can go use them to get us moving in the direction we want.
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Transcript
Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you.
Speaker:Once again, welcome back to the daily podcast.
Speaker:Do apologize, friends.
Speaker:It has been a little while.
Speaker:Hasn't it.
Speaker:I know some of you just clicked on the link to open the podcast and like this
Speaker:guy where's he been, it has been a while.
Speaker:Hasn't it?
Speaker:I have been a little before I tell you what I've been doing.
Speaker:I just want you to imagine the greatest.
Speaker:Short motivational podcast you've ever heard.
Speaker:Cause I just recorded it.
Speaker:With the wrong microphone turned on.
Speaker:So after about 10 minutes recording.
Speaker:I went to check the playback.
Speaker:And it sounded like I was recording inside a cave.
Speaker:Under a box.
Speaker:It was terrible.
Speaker:Oh boy.
Speaker:So let's see what I can do second time around, uh, where have I been?
Speaker:Look, I don't know how to answer that.
Speaker:I think.
Speaker:Like all of us Cove has had a lot of ramifications and, you know, before
Speaker:COVID hit, I was traveling so much and just really enjoying that life.
Speaker:And I was in the U S every few weeks.
Speaker:And.
Speaker:I was great.
Speaker:And it's been a big shift.
Speaker:And so like some of you listening, it's been a real journey of rediscovering.
Speaker:Oh, am I going to do, what am I here to do?
Speaker:And I realize more and more that no matter what happens, what I want to
Speaker:do is just encourage people and trying to help and serve and motivate people.
Speaker:It's what I, it's what I need in my life.
Speaker:It's what I need people to do for me.
Speaker:And I wanted to just keep doing it.
Speaker:I went to sleep last night and I thought.
Speaker:It's been another good day.
Speaker:I did plenty of stuff.
Speaker:But I thought have I, have I actually done enough for people today?
Speaker:I think we all got to be careful of becoming self-referential right.
Speaker:Like we're sort of living our lives and it's such a self-referential
Speaker:culture that we live in.
Speaker:So look, I'm back.
Speaker:I want to try and serve you guys as much as I possibly can.
Speaker:Just with little useful daily insights.
Speaker:I think many of you does.
Speaker:I have a quick listen in the morning and hopefully this sets you up.
Speaker:You know, for a good start to the day, I'm using an app at the moment called mindset.
Speaker:And I often just have this thing ready to go.
Speaker:So when I'm up in the morning at 4:00 AM,
Speaker:I don't give my mind too long.
Speaker:To have its way with me.
Speaker:By nature.
Speaker:I tend to be more of a melancholic personality and if I let my brain
Speaker:just dictate the start of the day, it's never going to be that good.
Speaker:So hopefully I can serve some of that purpose for you guys.
Speaker:And just keep bringing you that daily motivation.
Speaker:Look, make sure you check out the Calendly link.
Speaker:There'll be a link to my personal calendar because I'm going to, I
Speaker:don't know how much traveling I'm going to be able to do this year.
Speaker:So I am going to do a lot more coaching.
Speaker:Um, just, uh, There's just an opportunity for me to coach more people.
Speaker:And to, just to help you guys, wherever you feel, stuck, business
Speaker:relationships, health, and fitness, all that sort of stuff.
Speaker:So.
Speaker:There'll be going to get the county Calendly link at the end
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Speaker:So let's see what, uh, how I can help.
Speaker:So make sure you hit that link.
Speaker:Uh, what have I been doing?
Speaker:I.
Speaker:I've been, I've been reading David Goggins, new book, which is dangerous.
Speaker:Uh, some of you would now often say David Goggins is my only hero.
Speaker:Uh, he's just this fascinating African-American guy who, um,
Speaker:former special forces operative.
Speaker:And then.
Speaker:Kind of got into the unhinged stuff that I'm doing these days
Speaker:ultra-marathons and that sort of stuff.
Speaker:And yesterday I did a 35 kilometer training run and I was
Speaker:listening to his latest book.
Speaker:And, uh, boy, I just, I went out, I think on Monday and I did
Speaker:30 K and I did 35 K yesterday.
Speaker:And this Saturday in like 36 hours time, I guess I have a 310
Speaker:kilometer ride, 310 kilometers.
Speaker:So look, if I, if I can do it in time, I'll jump on Instagram and
Speaker:I'll reopen an Instagram account.
Speaker:I haven't used a lot of social media for a while, but I'll try and take
Speaker:some photos of this 310 K ride.
Speaker:And I just say to people, look, it's relative.
Speaker:These are the things that I do that keep me feeling connected and alive and.
Speaker:Motivated.
Speaker:I like to have things in front of me, but it's relative.
Speaker:So my 310 K might be, you know, for you, it might be doing a 10 K run or a
Speaker:ride a Monday, Monday, even be physical.
Speaker:It might just be some project or something you've been avoiding doing.
Speaker:You know, in David Goggins new book, he does this thing called
Speaker:the Moab two 20 to 220 mile run.
Speaker:For my metric listeners, that's 400 kilometers.
Speaker:It's a 400 kilometer run.
Speaker:You have to complete 110 hours.
Speaker:So yeah, I'm doing 310 K on Saturday, but I'm doing that in a bike.
Speaker:He did 400 K running.
Speaker:C a relativity is what matters is it all of us adjust engaged in interesting things
Speaker:that help us to live fully and encourage and bless other people earlier today
Speaker:on this theme, I just finished watching a great movie called the Al PennEast.
Speaker:It's a documentary about the life of a young guy called mark Andre.
Speaker:LaClaire who's a very famous mountain climber solo free climate climbs.
Speaker:The most outrageous peaks with just nothing except his hands.
Speaker:I'm talking like, you know, 2000 feet of rock face with no rope, that kind
Speaker:of thing, the kind of thing where you sneeze or there's a mosquito on your ear.
Speaker:I guess it wouldn't be many mosquitoes at that height, but you get the point, you
Speaker:gone, you full and, uh, there's a scene at the end where his mother's talking and
Speaker:she sort of says that one of the things she hopes that his life teaches is that.
Speaker:Andre, Ella, Claire show us that pressing through these barriers
Speaker:and you know, self-imposed limits.
Speaker:Really open up life.
Speaker:To be quite a remarkable experience.
Speaker:I really do want to encourage all of us that this, these little steps
Speaker:that we take, these little steps of.
Speaker:Of growth and challenge.
Speaker:That can be so important.
Speaker:Now I want to jump into today's quote.
Speaker:I like this one.
Speaker:Some, a lady called Betty ed.
Speaker:She says this, if we understood.
Speaker:The power of our thoughts, we would guide them more closely if we understood
Speaker:the awesome power of our words.
Speaker:We would prefer silence to almost anything negative in our thoughts
Speaker:and words, we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths.
Speaker:Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts.
Speaker:We can always replace negative with positive.
Speaker:So.
Speaker:In the previous version of this podcast, the one that I
Speaker:recorded in the cave under a box.
Speaker:I talked a lot about this and now sort of like, oh, I've got to do it all again.
Speaker:So maybe I can just streamline it.
Speaker:I think when it comes to the power of our thinking and our speaking, most of
Speaker:us tend to fall in one or two categories.
Speaker:Some of us.
Speaker:I think that it's really irrelevant.
Speaker:It doesn't matter so much.
Speaker:And some of us think that there's enormous power in them.
Speaker:I mean, I don't want to create a, an artificial dichotomy, but
Speaker:I think we do all tend to come down one side of the other.
Speaker:I think for many years, I kind of thought.
Speaker:I guess what I'm getting at is the extreme end of this is that we create
Speaker:reality with our thinking, right?
Speaker:And the extreme of that extreme is there's no objective reality.
Speaker:That's just a perception.
Speaker:And I don't think that's true.
Speaker:I don't think we magically just create reality itself.
Speaker:But I think we probably have a lot more power over our experience through our
Speaker:thinking and speaking than we may realize.
Speaker:You know, thoughts are mysterious thing half the time
Speaker:we know where they come from.
Speaker:All of us.
Speaker:Just thinking can just emerge.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:Teresa of Avila, a mystic from the 15th century once said, uh, you can't stop the
Speaker:bird from flying over your head, but you can stop it from nesting in your hair.
Speaker:I always liked that, you know, like we can't always control the
Speaker:first thought that comes into our head, but we can control whether
Speaker:we allow it to set up residence.
Speaker:So I am an increasing believer in this idea that we can control the content
Speaker:of our thinking directed more, be more vigilant about what we think.
Speaker:And then of course, how we speak.
Speaker:This is not easy to do.
Speaker:If it was easy to do, everybody would feel great all the time.
Speaker:And.
Speaker:Be speaking so positively all the time that doesn't tend to be the reality.
Speaker:So I want to encourage us all today to remember that.
Speaker:And she says here in our thoughts and words, we create our own
Speaker:weaknesses and our own strengths.
Speaker:I mean, how do you feel if you're constantly putting yourself down, how
Speaker:do you tend to feel if your internal dialogue is constantly self-critical.
Speaker:Is it possible that, you know, some of us have also been raised
Speaker:to believe that if we think and say positive things about ourselves,
Speaker:then that's prideful or arrogant.
Speaker:I think if you had to bet, I think if you had to take a gamble, I'd
Speaker:go with more confidence than less.
Speaker:I'm not asking us to tip over into narcissism, but I'm saying that if we
Speaker:tend to be more positive and happy, you know, thinking and speaking, we tend
Speaker:to just do life better and be more of a blessing to the people around us.
Speaker:So friends that is the concept for today.
Speaker:Pay some attention to the thinking that's in your head.
Speaker:There's a three-step process.
Speaker:I came across recently in a book called telling yourself the truth.
Speaker:By ah, the authors here, I can see them on my bookshelf.
Speaker:It's Backus and champion.
Speaker:And in that book, they're kind of like the first step is to catch yourself in
Speaker:the act of thinking what you are thinking.
Speaker:Second is to evaluate whether it's real or destructive or helpful.
Speaker:And the third step is to replace it definitely with something that is helpful.
Speaker:So look at that three step process.
Speaker:What are you thinking?
Speaker:Is it true?
Speaker:Is it helping and then replace it with something that is, this is the burden.
Speaker:This is the journey of life.
Speaker:This is the real moment by moment thing that we are all doing.
Speaker:We're all on this journey.
Speaker:We just got to get conscious.
Speaker:We got to get switched on to really be aware of how this
Speaker:stuff's playing out in real time.
Speaker:All right.
Speaker:That's it for me today.
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