Confrontation Or Avoidance?

Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you.

Once again.

Welcome aboard friends to the daily podcast.

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I hope I can bring you something good today.

There's just so much wisdom in the world.

You know, there's so many great men and women.

Who've uh, learned so much and I love bringing you some

of these insights each day.

You know, I always say we just need one or two good ideas sometimes in life

to, um, to push us in a new direction.

We just need a little bit of.

Encouragement and insight and inspiration.

So today I want to share with you another great quote from.

The famous psychologist, Carl Rogers.

Now I know some of you have been listening on a daily basis and you're

like, what is this thing, Jonathan?

You've been on a bit of a, uh, He'd been on a bit of a smorgasbord

of famous psychologists lately.

And I have been, I think there's just so many incredible men and

women that have just, you know,

Spent their entire lives, thinking about human behavior and what leads

to a rich, full, meaningful life.

And, uh, I want to bring you some of that.

So today I'm going to share with you this quote from Carl

Rogers, and I really liked this.

He says growth occurs.

Let's agree before I give you the rest that we are all

interested in growth over here.

You ever met somebody that says, you know what?

I hate growth.

I want to go backwards.

So let's start from there.

Growth matters to us.

He says this growth occurs when individuals.

Confront problems.

Struggled to master them.

And through that struggle.

Develop new aspects of their skills, capacities, and views about life.

One more time.

Growth occurs when individuals confront problems.

Struggled to master them.

And through that struggle, develop new aspects of their skills.

Capacities.

And views about life, right.

A couple of key points.

The word is confront.

When individuals confront their problems.

So we all have problems, right?

So you right now have a problem.

And, you know, it was laughed at when Tony Robbins said that the

thing about success is that, uh, the more successful you become, what

you get is a better kind of problem.

You just get different problems.

So some people like, well, I'll be happy one day when this happens

and I go, no, when you get there, what are you going to have?

It's just a different kind of problem.

It might be a.

You know, a bigger one.

It might be more expansive.

One.

But remember that this journey of life doesn't lead to.

The avoidance and disappearance of all challenge and suffering.

We just get new challenges and bigger ones if we want to grow.

And that's what it means to be human.

So we've got to confront these problems.

And struggle to master them.

So whatever you're facing right now, whatever problem you have in

your life, relationship problem.

The health problem.

A career problem.

You got a couple options here.

You've got avoidance or confrontation, right?

Avoidance or confrontation.

Think about the universe is that it doesn't seem to like standing

still, you know, you look around you, things are either growing or dying,

aren't they, they're not, you know, very people go, no, I could look

at the mountains and the mountains.

They don't change.

Course.

They changed it, changing all the time.

They used to be bigger.

They've been worn down by rain and wind.

I guess everything's changing all the time.

So our thing with problems is confrontation or avoidance

confrontation or avoidance.

Now we don't have to burn ourselves out.

Full frontal attacking every problem all the time.

But we want to have a life where in general, when we become aware of

problems in our life that we don't go into denial, we don't want to

be on that river in Egypt, denial.

We want to be facing things and confronting them and

seeking to master them.

So what Roger is saying here is that as we go through that

struggle, as we do that work of confrontation, instead of avoidance.

We end up with a new set of a new aspect about our own skills.

And you know, if you've been listening carefully a few days ago,

I shared a quote from Albert Bandura.

Who said that?

That our belief about our capacities has a huge influence on our capacities.

So this ties in with what Rogers is saying is that.

When you confront something and eventually you master it.

It changes your self perception.

It changes your self perception because you become aware that, you know what,

that was really hard, but I did it and I got better and I grew in the process.

So I want to encourage us all today that whatever problem we're facing.

It isn't going to go sideways or stay the same.

It's either going to get worse or it's going to get better.

So if your problem is you hate your career.

Well, what do you do about that?

Well, you can stay exactly where you are.

You can just, uh, you know, but.

Ironically, you know, paradoxically, you're not going to stay where you are.

Are you going to go slowly backwards?

Because you're going to get more resentful.

You're going to get more unhappy.

So to confront that problem to seek, to master a new set of skills, whether that's

interview skills or doing more study or.

You know, entering a new area of the economy, whatever it is like it's about

either confrontation or avoidance.

So I want to encourage us all relationships, health, and fitness.

Uh, Korea, the big things that matter in life for spirituality.

Love.

We don't want to live in that land of avoidance.

We want to live in that land of confrontation, mastery, and growth.

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