We all have times when things don’t turn out the way we hope. How we deal with loss can make a huge difference in the journey of our lives. In this episode I explore a simple way we can think about loss and how to get ourselves moving forward.
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Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you.
Speaker:Once again, welcome friends to the daily podcast.
Speaker:It is good.
Speaker:It is very good that you are here, that you're listening.
Speaker:I hope I can bring you something useful today.
Speaker:Whatever has happening in your life.
Speaker:I'm just hoping I can bring you some insight.
Speaker:I am on this journey with you.
Speaker:Trust me.
Speaker:This is, uh, I'm in a challenging season.
Speaker:My kids are still young.
Speaker:I used to say to Karen that when they were really young, I thought this
Speaker:will be the hardest phase, right.
Speaker:This would be really hard because.
Speaker:They didn't sleep.
Speaker:There was so little, you just, you, you can never take a break and now
Speaker:they're pretty much all young teenagers.
Speaker:It's a whole new world.
Speaker:It's just like, man, you gotta be on.
Speaker:You gotta be on from the second you move.
Speaker:It's funny.
Speaker:We've got a little dog and uh, the second the dog, he has me moving.
Speaker:I was up this morning at 3:00 AM.
Speaker:As woke up really early.
Speaker:The second I move the dog hears me.
Speaker:Cause I got in this terrible habit.
Speaker:I give the, I give the animal, his dental, treat this little
Speaker:snack thing every morning.
Speaker:So it was like the second I move out the door, he hears me.
Speaker:I'm just like on I'm just like I am, I am on, I am present from
Speaker:3:00 AM and that's what it's like in this season of parenting too.
Speaker:It's like, I'm on.
Speaker:Oh the time.
Speaker:So trust me.
Speaker:I'm on this journey with you, this journey of trying to develop, trying
Speaker:to grow, trying to find new insights and new ways to keep moving forward.
Speaker:Keep developing.
Speaker:I heard a speaker recently, talk about earth school.
Speaker:I thought that was a great little metaphor earth school.
Speaker:We are at earth school.
Speaker:We have been sent to earth.
Speaker:Each of us are on this journey from birth towards physical death, and then beyond.
Speaker:We're at earth school.
Speaker:So we're all here to learn.
Speaker:And today I want to talk about.
Speaker:What do you do with loss?
Speaker:What do you do with loss?
Speaker:I heard someone the other day talking about the experience of COVID and for
Speaker:most of us, there was some form of loss.
Speaker:I know there's some people that really live, actually turned
Speaker:out pretty good for them.
Speaker:They got.
Speaker:Uh, they got, uh, you know, to stay on the same rate of pay.
Speaker:They got to sit around in their pajamas.
Speaker:And, uh, there are actually some people.
Speaker:Kind of thought it was all pretty good.
Speaker:I'm like, okay.
Speaker:But for many of us was a great deal of loss.
Speaker:I mean, remember back it was 2019.
Speaker:I was booked to speak in Baltimore.
Speaker:And I was really excited because we had 10,000 people coming to the event
Speaker:and I was going to be up there on stage and I was looking forward to it.
Speaker:So excited the family was coming.
Speaker:At a cost that ended.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:And then all my us speaking obviously ended.
Speaker:And then my speaking here in Australia ended, and I'm a huge experience
Speaker:of loss re identifying, right?
Speaker:Like I basically spent two years.
Speaker:Homeschooling and helping out here.
Speaker:And, um, many of you can relate to this different forms of loss.
Speaker:I might have young listeners that lost educational time might have
Speaker:older listeners that lost access to.
Speaker:Family and friends and connections.
Speaker:So, you know, personally for what it's worth.
Speaker:I think the way it was handled was, um, somewhere north of truly abysmal and
Speaker:many of us suffered very needlessly, but, um, whenever you take is on
Speaker:that, we're dealing with loss, right?
Speaker:We're dealing with the experience of loss.
Speaker:What do you do?
Speaker:When you have loss in life and you might have loss in terms of that,
Speaker:maybe it's a relationship, right?
Speaker:You've lost somebody, a relationship didn't work out.
Speaker:Maybe it's a career thing, you know, all of us at some stage experience loss.
Speaker:And what do you do with that?
Speaker:And the insight that I came across recently was really helpful for me.
Speaker:Was that the opposite to loss.
Speaker:His creation is to create.
Speaker:And you lose something.
Speaker:There's a sense.
Speaker:Obvious something's being taken away.
Speaker:So the opposite of that is not to sort of guess, you know, internalize
Speaker:bitterness and disappointment, but the opposite in fact is to turn towards
Speaker:creation, to create again, to start again.
Speaker:Karen.
Speaker:And I write in the phase at the moment, really redirecting and rebuilding.
Speaker:Uh, global online business, our global media business, and it's a time
Speaker:of re creation and it's like hard.
Speaker:It's like so much work to be done.
Speaker:So many new tools and skills and things that we have to put together,
Speaker:but it's a creative phase for us.
Speaker:So we're responding to the loss of the last few years with a season of creating.
Speaker:And by no means, want to make this sound easy.
Speaker:It's not.
Speaker:But what are your options?
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:The options are to stay stationary, to basically stay stuck in life or worse, to
Speaker:turn inwards, to turn into bitterness and resentment and disappointment and blame.
Speaker:And.
Speaker:You know, self-rejection so I want us all to get on the same
Speaker:page with this issue of loss.
Speaker:We all have it right.
Speaker:We all have it.
Speaker:If you don't have it present in your life right now.
Speaker:You will, because it's always going to be there.
Speaker:It's part of this earth school, right.
Speaker:We're going to keep experiencing seasons of loss, seasons of
Speaker:setback, seasons of difficulty.
Speaker:But let's keep staying creative.
Speaker:Let's find creative ways.
Speaker:I mean,
Speaker:Of all the things about us as a species.
Speaker:One of the things you can really point to is our ability to
Speaker:innovate, create adapt to the most difficult, difficult circumstances.
Speaker:I'm just finishing off.
Speaker:Uh, Jenny Tufts books, solar, which I mentioned a few episodes ago where
Speaker:she runs on her own across pretty much every major mountain range in the world.
Speaker:And it's just an extraordinary story and her ability to enjoy,
Speaker:to adapt, to innovate, to survive, to, to keep moving forward.
Speaker:And maybe that's the thing I want to take you away from and
Speaker:take away from today's episode.
Speaker:Is this.
Speaker:Endless sense that I have, that what's most important is to keep moving forward.
Speaker:You only really lose in life.
Speaker:If you stay stationary, you only really lose in life.
Speaker:If you surrender, if you are breathing, if you are moving forward,
Speaker:there is life, there is tomorrow things can, and they do change.
Speaker:All of us have times and seasons of loss and difficulty and struggle and strain.
Speaker:But if we just keep moving forward,
Speaker:If we keep choosing to create rather than falling backwards.
Speaker:There is hope.
Speaker:One of my favorite quotes in the old Testament is from the proverb where
Speaker:it says it is better to be alive dog.
Speaker:Than a deadline.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:As long as you got breath friends, there is always tomorrow.
Speaker:So press on, press on, press on.
Speaker:Let's get creative.
Speaker:Take all the difficulties that you've faced.
Speaker:And be a person who chooses to keep creating and building.
Speaker:All right.
Speaker:That's it for me today.
Speaker:God bless you everybody.
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Speaker:God bless you, everybody.
Speaker:My name's Jonathan Doyle.
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