In today’s episode I talk about the power of asking yourself better questions. If you want to create new results in your life then you need to master the power of asking yourself questions that move your forward and don’t hold you back.
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Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan, with you.
Speaker:Once again.
Speaker:Welcome aboard my friends to the daily podcast.
Speaker:A little bit of inspiration.
Speaker:Motivation education heading your way as we are all on this journey
Speaker:together, all trying to grow.
Speaker:It seems to me that if we are not investing and making efforts in our
Speaker:own personal development and growth, then we do not tend to stay stationary.
Speaker:It may look stationary to you.
Speaker:It may look stationary to others.
Speaker:But what's actually happening is we are slowly moving backwards.
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Speaker:get your moving forward friends.
Speaker:Today.
Speaker:I want to talk about something that has been, look, I think has
Speaker:been a challenge for me for much of my life as a person of faith.
Speaker:I'm often like, you know, You end up with this old list ID.
Speaker:Do you end up with this kind of magical fairy idea?
Speaker:That life is supposed to just go exactly how you want it.
Speaker:This should be sunshine and rainbows and unicorns sprinkling your favorite
Speaker:hand-selected color-coded M and M's along your path as you journey through the day.
Speaker:And I've sort of thought for a long time that if.
Speaker:If it wasn't like that, then it must be something wrong.
Speaker:And I was doing something wrong.
Speaker:And then depending on how you grew up in.
Speaker:All sorts of different experiences that we have in life of trauma and
Speaker:pain, all that stuff that happens.
Speaker:We can tend to think that life isn't going exactly the way we want.
Speaker:Then maybe we are being punished.
Speaker:You ever had that thought?
Speaker:I know some of you haven't I talked to Karen about this once and she's
Speaker:like, no, I've never thought that I'm like, okay, so everyone except
Speaker:Karen, who I'm talking to you today.
Speaker:I'm sure most of us have had some kind of similar experience.
Speaker:That'd be a spectrum.
Speaker:Me, as some of us would be like, you know, going through life, feeling
Speaker:that you're deeply kind of cursed or punished nothing ever works for you.
Speaker:And nothing goes right.
Speaker:All the way to kind of not having that feeling, but sort of when things do
Speaker:go wrong and you get frustrated and you're like, am I doing something wrong?
Speaker:Why isn't God, the universe making things work for me?
Speaker:So I got a really interesting filter on this today.
Speaker:I was up super early and.
Speaker:Uh, lately I've been spending from about 4:00 AM through the kind of 7:00 AM.
Speaker:I'm doing a lot of training content, just listening, some really good
Speaker:training that I like to listen to.
Speaker:And just, you know, resourcing myself.
Speaker:And I, you know, I've said to you guys for so many years, keep filling
Speaker:that cup, keep resourcing yourself.
Speaker:With great content.
Speaker:So the filter they want to use on this topic of you.
Speaker:Is the universe conspiring against you?
Speaker:He's to kind of talk about the pair of questions, right?
Speaker:The power of questions I learned many years ago, that if you ask
Speaker:your brain a dumb question, It will give you a very unhelpful answer.
Speaker:If you have asked your brain a question, like, why am I so stupid?
Speaker:Or why can I never get anything?
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:Well, your brain is going to give you a spectacularly.
Speaker:Um, helpful answer.
Speaker:Trust me.
Speaker:That's exactly.
Speaker:What's going to happen.
Speaker:You ask a better question.
Speaker:You get a better result.
Speaker:If you ask a question of.
Speaker:You know, instead of why am I so stupid?
Speaker:You asked when you might ask a question?
Speaker:Like what could I attempt differently?
Speaker:What am I doing?
Speaker:That's inefficient.
Speaker:That just same experience, but different questions.
Speaker:Do you ask a better question?
Speaker:You get a better state, you get a much better sense of direction and movement
Speaker:and purpose in the difficulties of life.
Speaker:So let's take this concept of is God punishing me.
Speaker:Is the universe punishing me?
Speaker:Did I step on someone's cat?
Speaker:Did I break 15 mirrors and did 300 kept black cats running cross in front of me.
Speaker:And I'm never going to get what I want to.
Speaker:What about moving from.
Speaker:Is God punishing me or is the universe punishing me to something
Speaker:like, is God challenging me?
Speaker:Is God challenging me.
Speaker:Am I being challenged to grow by these difficult circumstances?
Speaker:You see, as a parent, you know, several young kids, my son, who's 39 and a half.
Speaker:Like he's really eating that phase of, you know, beginning to grow
Speaker:into these young men hood and.
Speaker:And moving from that dependence to kind of independence and interdependence.
Speaker:And I noticed that as a parent, my task is to start to push them a little bit harder.
Speaker:To try and get him to take more responsibility, to have
Speaker:more accountability, to set his own standards higher.
Speaker:And I can see that as a parent, I'm expecting a higher standard.
Speaker:And I don't think as you know, many of you parents know often your
Speaker:kids are not like, Hey, thanks.
Speaker:I really appreciate you making life more challenging for me.
Speaker:We've got the kids.
Speaker:Don't tend to be grateful, at least not initially.
Speaker:So what have we take that lens?
Speaker:Take that filter and say, what if.
Speaker:Life God, the universe.
Speaker:Is challenging.
Speaker:You.
Speaker:What of your difficult situation is one that's not just going to destroy
Speaker:you, but actually make you grow now.
Speaker:Please understand this is not pleasant.
Speaker:A lot of the time, this can be really quite difficult and painful.
Speaker:I'm still learning that as I go, sometimes I find things really difficult.
Speaker:Like, wow, why is it like this?
Speaker:And then I remind myself, Hey man, what you just said to everybody?
Speaker:I mean, what you're talking about on your podcast.
Speaker:It's because of its hard, you growing.
Speaker:If it's difficult, you growing.
Speaker:So friends, I really want to give you that filter, you know, and sometimes
Speaker:if things aren't going the right the way we want, it's not because we're
Speaker:being challenged or being punished.
Speaker:It's because we're being lazy.
Speaker:Maybe we're not doing enough.
Speaker:Maybe we're actually sitting on the metaphorical couch of life and not doing
Speaker:the things that we need to be doing.
Speaker:So I want to give myself that lens, that I, what if all of the difficulties,
Speaker:what of all the challenges and pains and things that we wish were different?
Speaker:We're invitations to growth.
Speaker:We're chances to change things.
Speaker:We're chances to get stronger and stronger and stronger.
Speaker:I just got out of the gym this morning, got out of the gym, got here into the
Speaker:studio and I'm like, I'm in the gym.
Speaker:I'm doing deadlifts today.
Speaker:And I'm doing high reps for a change.
Speaker:And I'm like the painful set.
Speaker:One was painful.
Speaker:Set.
Speaker:Two was painful.
Speaker:Step three was painful, but now.
Speaker:I have a body like a great God, at least that's how I describe it.
Speaker:I mean, It's not quite, you know, Michelangelo's David,
Speaker:but it's not too far off.
Speaker:But my point is it's that resistance.
Speaker:It's that difficulty, it's that pain.
Speaker:It's that hardship that changes us.
Speaker:It causes us to grow.
Speaker:So look into your life today, my friend, look into your life
Speaker:and ask yourself the question.
Speaker:Are you being punished or are you being challenged?
Speaker:Where is the most difficult things in your life today, because that
Speaker:is the place you are going to grow.
Speaker:All right.
Speaker:That's it.
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Speaker:It's what I love to do wherever I am in the world.
Speaker:I'm like I meet someone and they've got a problem.
Speaker:I'm like this, let's discuss it.
Speaker:Let's look at some filters.
Speaker:Let's find out where your block.
Speaker:Let's find out some strategies.
Speaker:Let's get you moving forward.
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