How To Deal With Loss in Life

Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you.

Once again, welcome friends to the daily podcast.

It is good.

It is very good that you are here, that you're listening.

I hope I can bring you something useful today.

Whatever has happening in your life.

I'm just hoping I can bring you some insight.

I am on this journey with you.

Trust me.

This is, uh, I'm in a challenging season.

My kids are still young.

I used to say to Karen that when they were really young, I thought this

will be the hardest phase, right.

This would be really hard because.

They didn't sleep.

There was so little, you just, you, you can never take a break and now

they're pretty much all young teenagers.

It's a whole new world.

It's just like, man, you gotta be on.

You gotta be on from the second you move.

It's funny.

We've got a little dog and uh, the second the dog, he has me moving.

I was up this morning at 3:00 AM.

As woke up really early.

The second I move the dog hears me.

Cause I got in this terrible habit.

I give the, I give the animal, his dental, treat this little

snack thing every morning.

So it was like the second I move out the door, he hears me.

I'm just like on I'm just like I am, I am on, I am present from

3:00 AM and that's what it's like in this season of parenting too.

It's like, I'm on.

Oh the time.

So trust me.

I'm on this journey with you, this journey of trying to develop, trying

to grow, trying to find new insights and new ways to keep moving forward.

Keep developing.

I heard a speaker recently, talk about earth school.

I thought that was a great little metaphor earth school.

We are at earth school.

We have been sent to earth.

Each of us are on this journey from birth towards physical death, and then beyond.

We're at earth school.

So we're all here to learn.

And today I want to talk about.

What do you do with loss?

What do you do with loss?

I heard someone the other day talking about the experience of COVID and for

most of us, there was some form of loss.

I know there's some people that really live, actually turned

out pretty good for them.

They got.

Uh, they got, uh, you know, to stay on the same rate of pay.

They got to sit around in their pajamas.

And, uh, there are actually some people.

Kind of thought it was all pretty good.

I'm like, okay.

But for many of us was a great deal of loss.

I was booked to speak in Baltimore.

And I was really excited because we had 10,000 people coming to the event

and I was going to be up there on stage and I was looking forward to it.

So excited the family was coming.

At a cost that ended.

Right.

And then all my us speaking obviously ended.

And then my speaking here in Australia ended, and I'm a huge experience

of loss re identifying, right?

Like I basically spent two years.

Homeschooling and helping out here.

And, um, many of you can relate to this different forms of loss.

I might have young listeners that lost educational time might have

older listeners that lost access to.

Family and friends and connections.

So, you know, personally for what it's worth.

I think the way it was handled was, um, somewhere north of truly abysmal and

many of us suffered very needlessly, but, um, whenever you take is on

that, we're dealing with loss, right?

We're dealing with the experience of loss.

What do you do?

When you have loss in life and you might have loss in terms of that,

maybe it's a relationship, right?

You've lost somebody, a relationship didn't work out.

Maybe it's a career thing, you know, all of us at some stage experience loss.

And what do you do with that?

And the insight that I came across recently was really helpful for me.

Was that the opposite to loss.

His creation is to create.

And you lose something.

There's a sense.

Obvious something's being taken away.

So the opposite of that is not to sort of guess, you know, internalize

bitterness and disappointment, but the opposite in fact is to turn towards

creation, to create again, to start again.

Karen.

And I write in the phase at the moment, really redirecting and rebuilding.

Uh, global online business, our global media business, and it's a time

of re creation and it's like hard.

It's like so much work to be done.

So many new tools and skills and things that we have to put together,

but it's a creative phase for us.

So we're responding to the loss of the last few years with a season of creating.

And by no means, want to make this sound easy.

It's not.

But what are your options?

Right?

The options are to stay stationary, to basically stay stuck in life or worse, to

turn inwards, to turn into bitterness and resentment and disappointment and blame.

And.

You know, self-rejection so I want us all to get on the same

page with this issue of loss.

We all have it right.

We all have it.

If you don't have it present in your life right now.

You will, because it's always going to be there.

It's part of this earth school, right.

We're going to keep experiencing seasons of loss, seasons of

setback, seasons of difficulty.

But let's keep staying creative.

Let's find creative ways.

I mean,

Of all the things about us as a species.

One of the things you can really point to is our ability to

innovate, create adapt to the most difficult, difficult circumstances.

I'm just finishing off.

Uh, Jenny Tufts books, solar, which I mentioned a few episodes ago where

she runs on her own across pretty much every major mountain range in the world.

And it's just an extraordinary story and her ability to enjoy,

to adapt, to innovate, to survive, to, to keep moving forward.

And maybe that's the thing I want to take you away from and

take away from today's episode.

Is this.

Endless sense that I have, that what's most important is to keep moving forward.

You only really lose in life.

If you stay stationary, you only really lose in life.

If you surrender, if you are breathing, if you are moving forward,

there is life, there is tomorrow things can, and they do change.

All of us have times and seasons of loss and difficulty and struggle and strain.

But if we just keep moving forward,

If we keep choosing to create rather than falling backwards.

There is hope.

One of my favorite quotes in the old Testament is from the proverb where

it says it is better to be alive dog.

Than a deadline.

Right.

As long as you got breath friends, there is always tomorrow.

So press on, press on, press on.

Let's get creative.

Take all the difficulties that you've faced.

And be a person who chooses to keep creating and building.

All right.

That's it for me today.

God bless you everybody.

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My name's Jonathan Doyle.

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