Today is a hard hitting episode where I get real about how we must fight so hard to claim responsibility for our lives and never surrender to blame and victimhood. No matter what has happened to use in our lives we must step up to the plate and make strong and powerful choices to come to our own rescue.
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Transcript
Well, Hey guys, Jonathan, with you once again, welcome friends to the
Speaker:daily podcast as always so good to have the pleasure of your company.
Speaker:Got some great emails over the weekend from many of you.
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Speaker:I've had a big morning up as usual around 4:00 AM.
Speaker:Uh, came into the studio, did a bunch of work.
Speaker:What else did I do?
Speaker:Uh, I got the heavy pack on and did two major sort of mountains out the back here.
Speaker:And, uh, with it, I mean, it's a rocking into heavy pack work.
Speaker:And then straight into the gym and just crushed it.
Speaker:I've been listening to an audio book by ed my lit I don't
Speaker:know if you've heard of him.
Speaker:I, uh, came across in relatively recently.
Speaker:It's a really cool book.
Speaker:Gosh, I should know the title.
Speaker:I'm listening to it right now, but I don't have my phone in the
Speaker:studio, so I can't I'll have to do it tomorrow, but I think it's like,
Speaker:I think it's called something like, um, the power of one more.
Speaker:And it's a really great books.
Speaker:I was in the gym that I.
Speaker:And I just kept resonating with what he was saying.
Speaker:And I was just like cranking out these extra sets because this
Speaker:is how it works when we feed ourselves with really good content.
Speaker:You never know, in one idea, one thought, one thing.
Speaker:It's just going to stick in your head at a particular
Speaker:moment and move you forward now.
Speaker:As I came out of the gym, I just had this strong sense of sharing with you.
Speaker:This really simple idea about responsibility.
Speaker:The more I take this journey of personal development over many
Speaker:years now that I love this stuff.
Speaker:Like I really do.
Speaker:I actually, for me, it's a, it's a way of life.
Speaker:It's a discipline.
Speaker:It's a path.
Speaker:That I've been interested in probably since I was about 16 years of age, I've
Speaker:just been listening to and reading.
Speaker:So much in this space.
Speaker:And then what struck me to die was this concept of responsibility.
Speaker:No one is responsible eventually for your outcomes, but you, so I wanted
Speaker:to speak really just simply to this, because I think what so many of us can
Speaker:do is fall into this constant process of looking at our pasts, looking in.
Speaker:An experience, a relationship, some form of trauma and pointing to that
Speaker:and saying that is the limiting factor.
Speaker:That is the reason that I can not flourish flourish in life.
Speaker:You might be listening to me saying, well, it's easy for you, Jonathan.
Speaker:You didn't go through what I went through.
Speaker:Well first, you don't know that's true for a start.
Speaker:I mean, many people that know me know that my own background.
Speaker:It was one of enormous difficulty and challenges.
Speaker:And I spent many years working, uh, transcending and overcoming some
Speaker:of the challenges that I faced.
Speaker:So, firstly, we never really know unless we get to know somebody really closely.
Speaker:We never know what they've come from, but as I was driving back from the gym,
Speaker:I thought this one big thought, right?
Speaker:No matter what you've been through.
Speaker:Here's a question.
Speaker:Is it possible that there is somebody in the world who has been
Speaker:through objectively worse than you.
Speaker:But he's doing better than you and are both better.
Speaker:I don't mean that they're a better person.
Speaker:I just mean that in some significant area.
Speaker:In their relationships in their career and their health and
Speaker:wellbeing in their level of success.
Speaker:Is it possible?
Speaker:That there are people who have had worse experiences in life than you
Speaker:that are doing better than you.
Speaker:See if that's true and you'd have to argue this possibly millions, maybe
Speaker:hundreds of millions of people in the world who would fit into that category.
Speaker:This is really confronting, right?
Speaker:Because I think all of us, me included, we want to be able to point to
Speaker:something and say, that is the reason.
Speaker:That is the reason I cannot grow.
Speaker:I cannot transcend, I can not push through because this
Speaker:particular thing happened to me.
Speaker:The moment you do that.
Speaker:The moment you are in that place, you are stuck.
Speaker:Because your power is surrendered to the past and you cannot reenter the past.
Speaker:You cannot go back and change it.
Speaker:I don't know about you, but every time I see a time-travel movie, it messes with
Speaker:me, never understood back to the future.
Speaker:Uh, recently my kids are watching the Adam project.
Speaker:Didn't understand the.
Speaker:That either we can't go back.
Speaker:We can't change our prison or our future by going back into the past.
Speaker:I mean, I guess you could say we can reconcile with the past.
Speaker:We can extrapolate the lessons from the past.
Speaker:But friends.
Speaker:If we give the past and the trauma, all that power, we surrender our
Speaker:responsibility and we stay stuck.
Speaker:Now, this is confronting.
Speaker:Some people get really angry at this point because they go, you
Speaker:don't know what I went through.
Speaker:And I said, I don't.
Speaker:But I do know that I want you to stay there.
Speaker:I don't want you to stay there.
Speaker:So friends what we have to do.
Speaker:Is begin to take a radical responsibility for our own outcomes.
Speaker:No blame, no person, no situation.
Speaker:Cause I know some of you listening here.
Speaker:Well, I was in this relationship and it was toxic or I'm in this
Speaker:relationship and it's ruining my life.
Speaker:I go, well, you have to find a way to get out.
Speaker:They have to value yourself enough to leave or to change the circumstance,
Speaker:or you've got a terrible job.
Speaker:You have to care about yourself, enough to start looking for other options.
Speaker:You have to take responsibility because no one is coming to the rescue.
Speaker:I mean, I'm trying, right.
Speaker:I'm trying to come to the rescue with this content.
Speaker:But all I can do is show you the path.
Speaker:What I can do is suggest to you, the tools all I can do is give
Speaker:you the conceptual frameworks.
Speaker:But ultimately what's going to matter is whether you take
Speaker:the responsibility or not.
Speaker:Friends.
Speaker:This is not easy.
Speaker:And this is why.
Speaker:So few people ever.
Speaker:Ever attain what they want in life.
Speaker:Because it's very hard work to take this level of responsibility.
Speaker:So I want to put that thought in your head today.
Speaker:That if you want more, you're going to have to step right up
Speaker:to the plate of your own life.
Speaker:And you are going to have to relinquish all the power that you have given
Speaker:to every circumstance, every person, every relationship, every boss,
Speaker:every file test, every person that said or did or something to you.
Speaker:And you have to take responsibility.
Speaker:It's a lofty.
Speaker:A heavy price to pay and it explains why so few want to pay it.
Speaker:But as best I can today, I'm going to be paying that price.
Speaker:I am going to take responsibility for my life and my outcomes.
Speaker:And I want to invite you on that journey with me.
Speaker:All right, that's it.
Speaker:Please make sure you've subscribed.
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Speaker:If you give me some feedback, what do you think you want to
Speaker:rant and say, this is terrible.
Speaker:This is not true.
Speaker:Email me, jonathan@jonathandoyle.co.ceo.
Speaker:Jonathan Jonathan Doyle dot co.
Speaker:Or you want coaching with me?
Speaker:Reach out, email me, hit the links, book yourself, a coaching call.
Speaker:It can really transform your life.
Speaker:I believe.
Speaker:That just getting the right person around you with the right insights and the
Speaker:ability to listen to you and target what needs to happen can change everything.
Speaker:All right, so go do that.
Speaker:My name's Jonathan Doyle.
Speaker:God bless you.
Speaker:I'm praying for you.
Speaker:I'm hoping you're going to make a breakthrough just by claiming back
Speaker:your power and responsibility.
Speaker:And I'm going to have another message for you tomorrow.
